As we grow older, our perception of love can become tainted by our experiences. When this happens, it can be difficult to accept the love language of those we hold close. We have a solution for this drawback: your grandchildren! They are the perfect reminder of how to live in a loving way. Fearless, confident and ready to take on the world, children show love in bountiful ways. Here are four things your grandchildren can remind you about love this Valentine’s Day:
Live in the Present
“The present moment holds the key to liberation. But you cannot find the present moment as long as you are your mind.” – Eckhart Tolle
It’s beautiful how children rise each day excited about little things like eating sugary cereal or playing outside. The present moment is their playground and they are “all-in”. If your daily tasks or thoughts are preventing you from connecting with the one you love, it’s time to reconnect with the present moment. Start by taking a few minutes each day to focus on your breathing. Think about what matters to you and who matters in your life. Thich Nhat Hanh, the Buddhist monk and peace activist, proclaims that the most precious gift we can offer is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.
We All Make Mistakes
“You learn by doing, you learn by trying and making mistakes, and it’s the questions you ask.” – Melinda Gates
Children make mistakes each day because they are continuously learning; as adults that doesn’t change. Our imperfections will aid us in making many mistakes throughout our lives. The defining factors is transparency and a willingness to grow. Your partner will never be perfect and that is okay. I’m sure some of their imperfections is what attracted you to them. Remember that forgiveness makes for a happier home because mistakes are inevitable.
Laughter Has Healing Powers
“Life is better when you’re laughing.” – Maya Angelou
Seeing a child laugh brings joy to my heart. I can feel my body relax as my mind refocuses on the positive with each passing moment. According to helpguide.org, “laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain, and conflict.” In Norway, a study found that individuals with a robust sense of humor outlived those who don’t laugh as much. The difference was particularly evident for those battling cancer.
Acknowledge The Little Things
“Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you’ll look back and realize they were big things.” – Kurt Vonnegut
Your grandchild tells you they have a special surprise and gifts you with a rock they found outside while walking the dog. What’s special about the rock is the thought, followed by the action of presenting it to you. The people we love cannot always come through for us in the ways we desire, but there is beauty in the little things they do, too. Whether they took out the garbage or washed the last dish left in the sink, show them your love by acknowledging their effort.
You have the perfect opportunity increase the love in your life by observing your grandchildren. Their effortless way of showing love can transform your heart and inspire you to love fuller. This Valentine’s Day, live in the present moment, forgive, and laugh as much as you can. Then grab some wine and dance in the kitchen with the love of your life!